October 2017 Newsletter
Volume 1 Issue 6
Jobs and Events
work2future is pleased to let you know about upcoming job events, opportunities, and announcements offered by work2future and our regional partners.
Updated Workshops Available including small changes to Gilroy’s Calendar for October
Maintenance Tech Prime Group (NEW)
Administrative Assistant Turning Point Educational Services
Multiple Positons City San Jose Inc.
If you have any questions regarding this information, please contact our main work2future office at (408) 794-1100
ALSO – From my NY buddy, Jerry Donnellan
49,000 Jobs at the Department of Veterans Affairs
From what I’m reading the Department of Veterans Affairs nationally has 49,000 positions that aren’t filled. So two things come to mind: if you want a job you might want to check on the VA website, and B, this goes to the VA’s mismanagement again. How could you possibly have 49,000 open jobs in a country that’s job-starved?
Gotta love it — they just keep giving me material! If you’d like to check out some VA jobs, view this link: https://www.vacareers.va.gov/job-search/
What’s inside the October 8th Issue
Jobs, Jobs and More Jobs –
Jobs from the Valley and around the country that are all chosen to be Vet Friendly
A benefits seminar, including money, right here at the San Jose Vet Center that you won’t want to miss
20 Things NOT to say to someone in a wheelchair –
Written by people in wheelchairs and given to me by a paraplegic vet.
Freedom Day –
Bet you didn’t even know there was one.
Issue of the Month – Addiction
This month it is all about addiction, from drugs and alcohol to gambling, sex and chocolate. See how to have a better life by kicking your habit.
Benefits Seminar – FREE
There will be a Benefits Seminar to update you and get you help with Compensation, Health Care, Survivor Benefits and more, at the San Jose Vet Center 80 Great Oaks Boulevard, San Jose, CA 95119, on October 26th, from 2:00 to 3:30 in room F-100 For more information or reservations, contact Daniel at 408-993-0729.
Wether you are a newly discharged vet or an old-timer like me, these seminars can be an eye opening experience.
Want more money, with no strings attached? GO
Want to know what benefits are available for your family, now and when you are gone? GO
Want to know of more benefits and options than you ever new existed? GO
And While We Are At It
Don’t forget that there is help on all of the following available from the VA, the Vet Center or Private providers – even free ones.
Check you issue under the Welcome home tab to see more issues you can get help with, most can be free.
20 Things Not to Say or Do to Someone in a Wheelchair
One of my new best friends who is a vet and uses a wheelchair, mentioned this article to me after I embarrassed myself. And just tokeep all our pre-misconceptions a little uncomfortable, my new friend is also an outstanding scuba diver. Now!
As a wheelchair user, I’ve experienced quite a varied reaction from the able-bodied public, so I thought I’d share a few things you shouldn’t say or do to those of us who use wheels.
1. “I’m only parking here for five minutes.”
No, you’re really not. It’s a disabled bay and you don’t have a permit, so get out of my space. I need this larger bay to get my wheelchair out of my car. Move.
2. “What have you done to your leg?”
Why would you ask a stranger such a personal question? It’s extremely rude and intrusive, and why assume I’m using a wheelchair because my legs don’t work?
3. “You’re too pretty to be in a wheelchair.”
Now, that’s a backhanded compliment if I’ve ever heard one. Disability doesn’t discriminate. I can still be fabulous and use a wheelchair.
4. “Can I have a go?”
Oh, of course, I’ll just go for a run while you go for a ride in my wheelchair. No. No. No.
5. Don’t speak to the person pushing me instead of me.
I have a voice, I’m an intelligent person and I can answer for myself.
6. “At least you don’t have to walk anywhere, I’m knackered.”
Yeah, because who would want to walk places and not be in agony?
7. “You’re such an inspiration.”
I never understand this one. How am I inspirational? I’m shopping for food — so inspirational.
8. “I’d rather be dead than in a wheelchair.”
Bloody hell, calm down, it’s not that bad. It takes some getting used to and it’s difficult, but surely living a life with adaptions is better than not living at all.
9. Don’t bend down to talk to me.
I’m not a child. Do you know how patronizing that is?
10. “Oh god, you can walk? What are you using that for then?”
Shock horror! We all use wheelchairs for various reasons; I use a wheelchair due to pain, fatigue and dislocations. I can’t walk that far, I can’t stand for long. Don’t assume that because someone is using a wheelchair their legs don’t work.
11. “How do you drive a car?”
I have an adapted vehicle and my legs work, just not as well as I’d like them to. Don’t look shocked when you see me getting out of my wheelchair and into the driver’s seat of a car.
12. Don’t move me out of your way.
Don’t ever think it’s OK to grab my wheelchair and move me without my consent. If I am in your way, don’t push my chair. Ask me politely and I’ll gladly make some space.
13. “Do you know Dave? He uses a wheelchair, too.”
Yes, every single person in the whole world who uses a wheelchair knows each other. How naive.
14. “I used a wheelchair when I broke my leg. I know exactly how you feel.”
You have no idea how I feel. You were wearing a plaster cast, and others would have been able to acknowledge you’ve suffered from an acute injury. You wouldn’t have experienced ableism or the grief, sadness and acceptance of having to use a wheelchair full-time.
15. Don’t pat me on the head.
Oh my days, do not do this or I will run you over. I’m not an animal; it’s so rude and patronizing.
16. “Your partner must be a saint for putting up with you in that.”
No, he’s not a saint, he’s a normal guy who loves a girl who happens to be in a wheelchair.
17. Don’t lean on my wheelchair.
It’s not worth it. I will punch you.
18. “Bloody hell, slow down or you’ll get a speeding ticket.”
What a comedian. If only your motor-mouth could get a ticket.
19. “You’re too young to be in a wheelchair.”
There’s no age limit. Wheelchairs aren’t only for the elderly; my body is broken and hates me, therefore I need this to live a “normal” life.
20. Don’t take a picture of me when I stand up from my wheelchair.
Don’t assume everyone in a wheelchair can’t walk, and do not take pictures or make memes of disabled people.
A wheelchair is freedom. It means I can go out and do things. I wouldn’t be able to walk around a shopping center; I can barely walk to my car from my house. My current wheelchair is a pacing strategy that helps me do things without excessive pain or fatigue.
A wheelchair can be used for various reasons, so please think because you say something ridiculous.
Author’s note (added Jan. 28, 2016): This post is in no way meant to offend anyone. It was directed at able-bodied, non-disabled people who have said or done these things to me and my friends who are wheelchair users. If someone had hearing difficulties, of course I wouldn’t mind them getting closer to me. Apologies if caused offense; it was not intended.
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Freedom Day USA – October 12th, 2017
Freedom Day USA is America’s Largest Military Thank You Event! One day each year, businesses say “Thank You” by providing a token of appreciation (Free Services, Free Gifts, Special Offers and More) to Active Military and their Immediate Family and to Veterans who visit their business on event day. This is our way of showing you how grateful we are for your service and for the sacrifices you have made for our freedom. In fact, Freedom Day USA is a “DAY OF FREE, FOR A LIFETIME OF FREEDOM!” For further information and participating businesses in your area, please visit their website: http://www.freedomdayusa.org or contact Cheryl Berk via e-mail at: Cherieberk@icloud.com.
Issue Of The Month – Addition
Click here to get to the pages on Alcohol and Drug abuse. With five videos you’ll see real veterans discussing how they attempted to cope with stress, nightmares, and other problems by turning to alcohol or drugs. It took strength for them to seek out more effective solutions, leave behind unhealthy ways of coping, and live healthier, more fulfilling lives.
And let’s not forget that addiction doesn’t just include alcohol and drugs. It can just as easily include lots of unprotected sex, excessive eating, coffee, chocolate, gambling, excessive shopping and lots of other ways we avoid getting to the bottom of our issues. I know, from personal experience, how hard it is to kick the habit, but I have a much better life now. Click here, please.